Spiritual Alchemy: What if we don't have to choose?


Some of the most interesting people out there (in my humble opinion) are those who combine and honor all of their loves, interests and passions.  These folks manage to take two or more hobbies or areas of interest that are seemingly completely unrelated and combine them.  It is an alchemy that often results in pure magic, probably because it is so authentically unique. 

Take Caroline Myss for example.  She is a best-selling author and speaker on spiritual topics, however every time I have heard her speak, she brings up the fact that she is a war history buff and she somehow manages to bring this content into her presentation.  Imagine: war history facts infused throughout a spiritual talk (!).  But the funny thing is… it works!  These two seemingly unrelated topics are in fact connected through Caroline.  She masterfully becomes the container for which this beautiful alchemical reaction can take place.

I can think of several other friends and colleagues who are combining their passions in similar ways.  I have a friend who is an accountant, environmental activist AND a watershed expert.  Another friend is passionate and talented at improv theatre, magic AND marketing (yep, marketing).  A colleague of mine is a Martha Beck trained coach (that is code for woo-woo believer), a history buff, AND a lawyer.  She has a wonderful blog in which she writes about historical figures, and combines it with her love for fine scotch.  Seriously.

I hope you are getting the message here: you do not have to choose which parts of your being are worth sharing or pursuing.  THEY ALL ARE.  In fact, it is the combination of such unlikely elements that make it (you) interesting. 

I recently found the first iteration of my business card.  I laughed when I found it because it seriously reads like this:

MareBare Necessities

Maren Hasse (aka MareBare)

Coach, Facilitator of FIERCE Integrity Project, Yoga Instructor and Retreat Facilitator, Speaker, Writer, Reiki Practitioner.

Seriously.  It says all of that.

Now, I could think of a few more things to add: vision consultant, meditation teacher, spiritual teacher, published author, ceremonialist and shamanic practitioner

Hmmm… I think I might need to get those postcard-sized business cards.

For the past four years (more) I have been wrestling with this perceived “problem” of explaining who I am and what I do.  The truth is, I do all of those things (and yet none of them explain who I am).  I also use ALL of those skills in EVERYTHING I do.  You can’t separate them.  When you hire me as a consultant, you are also getting a coach (plus all of those other things) because I am me.  I am the container. 

In the past, I have been criticized for re-branding so many times, for not being “clear enough” about what I do and for whom.  However, whenever I have tried to “narrow it down”, I feel that I inadvertently cut some part of me off, that I have to deny some part of my being. 

The truth is, I don’t have to (nor do I want to). 

Currently, my brand is my name.  My brand is ME.   

I am getting more and more clear on my medicine/niche (I help people navigate adversity and change using coaching and shamanistic practices) and apparently this is true across a wide range of environments, people and settings. 

My message for today is: be the container.  Just be YOU.







A tiny little rant...

We watched a movie this weekend - Tomorrowland, a futuristic Sci-Fi film.  It was far from being the best film I've ever watched, however it did have a bit of substance.  More notably, a large part of its storyline hinged on the Cherokee Legend about the two wolves:

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”


This story has always resonated with me, and really reminds me of my own inner struggle, especially as it has pertained to my depression.  

Anyway, this is not a post on depression, but rather on self-promotion… and how much I loathe it.

As a life coach, I am a firm believer in possibilities.  Yep, I am an eternal optimist, what they refer to in the film as dreamer (much like Casey in the above-mentioned film, whose optimism, by the way, saves the world).  

So, a few years ago, I fully committed to my own dream by starting a coaching/writing business.  Like most coaches, I didn't know the first thing about starting or running my own business, and right off of the hop, it became apparent that self-promotion was going to be a "necessary evil" of growing my business.  Blech.

I played the game at first, I bought a few advertising spots here and there.  I started to build my "list".  I posted on social media.  I blogged a lot.  I gave away free stuff.  

And it worked, kind of.  But I hated it.  And to be totally honest, I still do.  

I have tried to make it feel good.  I really have.  Last year, I took Tad Hargrave's & Mark Silver's workshop on Heart-Based Business and Marketing for Hippies.  It was right up my alley in terms of their energy behind the approach (and these two guys ROCK), however the action items that came from that workshop are honestly still sitting idly on my list of "to-do's".  I just don't have the energy for them.  I don't have the passion or the drive.  

Don't get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE what I do.  I love to teach, coach, give talks, write and sing songs, and create ceremony, but I SO don't love to sell it.  I just don't.  It takes me months and months to muster up the patience and energy to put out a newsletter.  What I do know is that if it feels like crap in my body (and it does), I just won't do it.

I have a friend who also works in this business (self-help/spirituality/personal growth) and she is BRILLIANT at what she does.  I know from speaking with her that she shares similar thoughts… tired and frustrated of the hustle that comes with trying to get your work out into the world.  She tells me that in other parts of the world they have a bit of a different system.  There are people who make a good business of organizing and planning events/workshops for you (and they take a percentage).  

All I have to say about this is YES PLEASE.

You think the Universe heard me?  Yeah.  I think so too.

Until then, I'm going to spend more of my time doing what I love, not on what I loathe.  I am going to write, I'm going to sing songs, I'm going to create ceremony, I'm going to go back to doing what I love to do, simply because I love to co-create with the Divine.  

As for you, please feel free to read it, listen to it, watch it, follow it… or don't.  And hear this: If you are getting my posts and don't want to, please for the love of God: UNSUBSCRIBE!  I don't want to want to waste your time any more than I want to waste my own!

We only get one wild and precious life.  Let's live it.



Nahanni, Dancing Coyote Woman

(PS: Curious about the name thing?! -- me too, more on that later)

Photograph courtesy of Jody Goodwin Photography